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Guest Blogger, Sam Codington
Would it be awkward to walk up to a person and say to them, “You are beautiful!”? Probably! But of course, it would depend who the person is and how close you are with them. The awkwardness of saying that to a person would be shaped and determined by our social norms.
In a sermon a few weeks ago, I heard a preacher invite everyone in the congregation to tell each of the people around them, “You are beautiful!” Awkward right? Kind of. Was it funny? For a lot of people. Was it true? Absolutely! Though it is for another blog post to explain why this is true. But for now I think it would be worth while to entertain a different question, “To what extent should we conform to our social norms?” If something is awkward, should we avoid doing it at all costs?
What if it were the case that as some of our social norms have developed over time and as we have conformed to these social norms, we have moved further away from what is good and true? What if sometimes doing the truth feels a bit awkward because it doesn’t conform to our social norms and even subverts them? What then?
I grew up in South Carolina, and then I moved to California. It wasn’t just a geographical change; it was a cultural change. And many of the social norms I took for granted in the South were foreign to Californian culture. Now that I have moved back to South Carolina, I am beginning to notice more vividly the many Southern social norms that dictate proper behavior and whether or not something is deemed awkward. Because social norms vary from place to place, discerning what is good and true and not simply cultural can be pretty complicated.
Walking up to a stranger and telling them that they are beautiful is probably awkward for most people in most cultures. However, how can we tell the difference between awkwardness that is just because we are doing something silly or from a different culture and awkwardness that is because our own social norms have drifted from what is good and true? This assumes of course that some of what is good and true transcends cultures. If some good things do transcend culture, how can we know what they are? And how can we know that our feeling of social awkwardness is because we are conforming to what is good and true rather than our social norms?
There’s that awkward moment when you’re with a group of friends and…something funny happens that inspires someone to quote a supposedly pertinent and funny line from a movie. No laughter…all faces draw a blank. Like the other friends, you haven’t seen the movie either, so you aren’t sure whether to laugh, pretend nothing was said, or be that inquisitive friend who asks for an explanation.
My childhood friends are the kinds of people who can watch a movie or YouTube video once and be able to quote from it precisely. Their ability to quote, without my having a clue about the meaning or source, has always unnerved me.
Lately, while working on class assignments, I have been watching How I Met Your Mother on Netflix. Because of how often I watch it, I encounter many situations that trigger quotes from the show that I feel would perfectly describe what just happened. The problem is that, if those around me haven’t seen the show, they won’t get it.
New Girl is a show that my roommate and I used to watch together. Thus, when we exchanged quotes from it, we understood the allusions and enjoyed times of hearty laughter. She has gone to Germany for the rest of the semester, so now, when something happens and I think of a pertinent quote, it is disappointing not to have her here to share the moment.
Here are several rules I’ve created for myself for quoting on target:
· Before quoting or referring to something, make sure others are aware of or can easily understand the source and setting.
· Don’t quote without a friend around who knows what you are talking about and can back you up so you aren’t laughing alone.
· Or just completely abstain from quoting anything and avoid any awkward situations from happening.
Do you have comments, additions, or similar situations to report?
One time at work I was talking to a customer whom I thought was about my age or possibly a couple of years older. When I finally asked her where she went to school, she said she was in 10th grade at Laurens High School. I couldn’t believe it! She was 4 years younger than I was. Whoa!
On Facebook you can see pictures of college students and middle- and high- school students, and they’re all wearing the same things and posing in similar ways. Am I getting be an “old fogey” or is this a good thing? It can certainly make for some awkward moments.
Thinking back and comparing how I acted and dressed at the age of the generation younger than mine, I am baffled by how much our society has changed. At 14, I was still not sure of “my style” and was just getting into the stage of thinking boys were cute, while, now, 14-year-old girls have already “crushed on a few guys,” possibly “dated” several, and dress more “maturely.” Furthermore, while you expect girls to act more maturely because of their “mature” appearance, you can feel quite frustrated when they don’t.
Okay, so maybe I am “old fogey.” I do feel kids need to stay kids until they actually become adults. They don’t know what they are missing when they try to dress as though they are much older. Allowing yourself to stay young and act your age can release you from unnecessary hassles and stressful drama. Rushing “adult problems” is not “cool” at all. I would gladly rush back to the days when the most difficult challenges I faced were figuring out how to discreetly hide food on my plate that I did not want to eat and to choose the “best” crayons to color a butterfly.
Seeing how the younger generations are trying to look older makes me wonder what the generations following theirs are going to look like. It’s already totesawk thinking I’m talking to people older than I am when they are really so young.
Ever run into someone you thought looked older than they actually were? What was your reaction?
I've slept on different types of beds before, but none that looked like this! I would be scared to fall through the cracks, or wake up tangled up in it. Definitely awkward.
I understand trying everything to get your baby to sleep, but really? If I was the baby I'd be crying because of those hands. That is just not normal! Totesawk!
I don't know about y'all, but I would ride this horse bike every day to class. It is that kind of awkward that is just perfect!
The Isophone is an underwater telephone design. You have the luxury of being able to talk on the phone, while those around you are splashing and swimming. Yeah...I think I'll stick to talking on my iPhone when I'm done swimming...awkward.
Pierced eyeglasses are glasses that are made to attach to a piercing at the bridge of your nose. This doesn't seem convenient, just painful. High-five to the person that
I've seen this happen, and not as a joke! LAHWF just knows how to make it humorous!
All of us at the retail store where I work have made it a game to scare each other whenever we have the opportunity. One of my co-workers, Corey, is able to scare people all the time. The other day he scared our manager out of her wits; she screamed frightfully and almost fell down.
In an attempt to scare people when they are least expecting it, I have tried numerous tactic, such as hiding and waiting, then suddenly reacting to something; making unusual noises; and sneaking up behind people and tickling them with a feather. Most of these attempts have concluded by my getting scared instead. Totesawk, I know. I get so caught up in my plan that I tend not to notice what everyone else is doing, therefore giving them the advantage to scare me.
David is another story, however. He works in the back and is the only person we haven’t been able to scare. Sometimes it can get super awkward. We will be trying to creep up slowly without making any sudden moves, and just when we are about to scare him, he starts talking to us. He is always able to tell when we are near him, regardless of what he is doing. He, on the other hand, is excellent at scaring us. I was working at the register one time when suddenly he was standing beside me, asking me a question. I about jumped out of my skin! He is the quietest person I have ever met. We never know when he will strike. Help! Can anyone give me some ideas on how to scare David? I’m not giving up!
Nobody likes to be called a gossip, but the Tempter is still at work. Do you know anyone who at some point in life hasn’t come upon some juicy, tantalizing “forbidden fruit” and passed it on to a curious recipient? The embarrassing part comes when you realize that the subject of the gossip is standing behind you…totesawk!
Once my co-workers and I had a serious awkward moment at the clothing store where we work. We had been watching a particular customer and had noticed some irresponsible behavior…breaking an item in the store and leaving it on the ground instead of bringing it to us. Later, believing the customer had left, we alluded to the item and spoke with frustration about irresponsible customers. Little did we know that the customer was standing behind a table and had overheard us. She accused us of talking bad about her. The awkward thing was that we didn’t say that the item had been broken; we had merely mentioned the item. We felt bad and awkward that she had heard our conversation, but by confronting us, she was actually acknowledging her guilt.
I was the victim of another awkward moment. When much younger, I took classes for three to four years at a dance studio. Wanting to become the best dancer I could be, I was really dedicated and attentive to my teacher, to the extent that some of my classmates considered me the “teachers pet.” One day when I was assisting my teacher with a younger dance class, she asked me to get something from her office. On my way to get what she needed, I overheard a couple of girls - they had earlier given me the impression that their were my friends - making jokes and slandering me with “teacher’s pet” comments. Undaunted, I stood there listening to everything they had to say. Once they noticed me, it was they, not I, who felt awkward.
Awkward moments aren’t always funny; sometimes they can be awful or depressing. If you want to avoid being a lead spokesperson in a gossiping ring, try out these tips:
· When your emotions are getting the best of you, isolate yourself. This enables you to clear your mind of negativity, or, if you enjoy writing, gives you time to write your thoughts down instead of sharing them out loud with someone else.
o Sharing negative emotions about others to friends or peers can cause them to feel negatively towards others before they are able to meet and get to know them.
· Confront people you have problems with in a manner that shows you want to understand their perspective. Whether they choose to share their own perspective or ignore you completely is up to them. It depends on how much they value your friendship.
· Most importantly, consider what the Bible says about gossip and ask God to help you refrain from engaging in it.
o Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
o Proverbs 16:28 says, “A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.”
o For more verses on gossiping, check out 43 Bible verses about gossip
What are some totesawk situations that you have encountered regarding gossip?
It may seem totesawk, but I think every girl secretly wishes this would happen!
So Thank Goodness It’s Friday, the beginning of the weekend. Gonna watch movies, hang out with friends, take really long naps, and enjoy the fact that it’s the weekend. The only problem is...do I really have the free time to do all these things, or am I just forgetting everything I have to do??
This reminds me of that moment in Harry Potter in which one of Harry's friends, Neville Longbottom, receives a "remembrall" from his Gran. It turns red if he has forgotten something; the only problem is...it doesn’t tell you what you have forgotten. I feel like this happens to all of us at some point. We get super stoked that it’s the weekend and completely forget about all of those college assignments that we have due the following week. We can’t remember what they are until Sunday creeps up on us, signaling the end of the weekend, and all of the assignments we buried that Friday…Uh-oh!
Here is a short list of ways to avoid that totesawk mind lapse we can have when Friday comes along:
· Write your assignments down ASAP in a place you will see them
· Set reminders on your phone so that you remember to do them before it’s too late
· Repeat it over and over until it’s stuck in your head
· and ask a friend or someone in the specific class to remind you
Try not to be in a totesawk situation like Neville and forget the things you have to do because it’s the weekend. That test you thought was in two weeks might actually be this Monday! Have a great weekend!!
For more (almost awkward) ways to remember things, check out these sites:
· 10 Ways to Remember to do Things!!
· How to Remember to Do Something Without Writing It
· How To Remember Things